Anger Management

Anger is a basic emotion which is innate in human beings. But from childhood we are told to not to express our anger, which makes it difficult to handle and rather we controlling anger , it starts ruling us.
Some better ways of managing anger are:

• Relaxation: Yoga , meditation and exercise are good ways of relaxing
  
• Constructive thinking: Being assertive and developing positive thoughts about ourselves and world will minimize anger feelings in us.
  
• Problem solving: Working on how to handle a problem rather than finding solutions for every problem can manage anger. Once we start living with the problem, rather than thinking of solutions to wipe it out, our frustrations about it will come down and in the process we may find solutions and not be angry at them.
  
• Use Humor: If you angry at a person or situation and start calling them names, start imagining those names in an ex aggregated way. For example, you are angry at your coworker and feel like telling him/her stupid, before you utter that word, imagine your coworker become stupid in reality. Then instead of abusing him/her, you start laughing at that mere thought and your anger will be controlled. Then you can think slowly what actually triggered anger in you, and start working on the cause rather than on the person and this will not spoil your relationships.
  
• Change the time : Anger is at its peak, when you are tired, stressed or sick. At that time, do not discuss unsolved emotional issues especially with your life partner and children. This may easily lead to arguments and worsen the situations rather than solve them. Better to avoid such situations at that time and clearly decide “not know”.
  
• Check: Check whether anger is used as mask other feelings such as inferiority feelings, guilt, shame, sad or depression. This mask may seem useful on surface, but deep down, anger will cause damage to your body and social relations. Improve positive personality and anger will not become a mask.
  

Lastly anger is the emotion which is triggered by a person, situation or some emotional trauma. Try not to immediately react to the triggering situation, calm down and find out the deep down cause for it and ways to remove the root cause. This will make us handle and express our anger in a constructive way without spoiling our health and relationships on some silly things.
And remember anger has to be expressed, not to be suppressed or distorted. It need to be expressed in an assertive way, so as to purpose of our anger is solved and causes no disrespect to ourselves and others.